DO IT NOW !!!

The mid-life crisis isn't necessarily something earth-shattering that causes wrinkles and accelerates greying or balding. It can just as easily creep in as the state of inertia and refusal to acknowledge it, and hence to get out of it. It doesn't have to start at a particular time of one's life or end as such, or even be called so.

Most of us are in a rut at some point of time in our lives. Most of us are too comfortable in the rut to attempt to get out of it. We just wait for something - "an external unbalanced force" - to come and set us in motion. Most of us will spend the rest of our lives waiting.

The process starts any time when one stops thinking independently and starts following. You develop all your growing years trying to learn - learning that fortifies thinking - thinking that separates one from another - individuality! Then one arrives at a point where one starts wanting to belong, to conform to set rules to identify oneself as part of a group - friends, colleagues, neighbourhood, culture, religion... one starts losing little pieces of one's identity to become one with others. Herein lie the roots of crisis; struggle to maintain one's own instinct against a group's mindset.

Whats important to understand that the struggle will not end on its own. The frustration only increases with time and with the thought process to acknowledge it. The only way to change direction is to stop thinking and start doing. After all, it will do good to remember, that we will only live this once. Whatever one thinks and wants, this is the only chance one has to go out there and get it. In any case, the action is what will determine the winners from the losers/ the leaders from the followers.

Most of us fail to recognize the instinct we have about the need to move. We actually cook up excuses to remain in the comfortable state we are in, and then fret over missed opportunities - a job, a relationship, an investment opportunity, a well-being experience... Any delay in action will result in further slide into the comfort zone, slowly leading to more of less irreversible situation with compounded delays over a period of time. The key to keep moving is to acknowledge the instinct and act immediately.

The earlier one starts converting ideas and thoughts into actions, the lesser time will be spent fretting over unknown results. Expectations may be met or not at the end of it, but the satisfaction of having tried, far outweighs the negative effects of the inertia. Most positive and happy people in life are those who have tried implementing their ideas, and aren't afraid of failing. They are the ones who treat each failure as an experience to learn from and act upon another set of ideas. They move on.